As we approach the end of the 1st month of the year, there are a few things we need to remember. I want to share 3 mindset blocks that are hindering your success.
When we start the New Year, we often set a ton of goals, intentions, resolutions etc. for ourselves. However, as the months roll by, we may lose our momentum. We may lose our motivation. If we don’t see results right away, we may just GIVE UP! So I’m here to help you get through all of those negative feelings and thoughts.
Working as a life coach and mentor, I have learned so much about individuals and how each person’s mind processes information differently. But one thing I realized, is that these 3 things that I am going to share with you, are similar in a lot of individuals.
So let’s get started!!!
The 1st common mindset block is the phrase “I Can’t!”-Remember that the things we speak over our life, often become our reality. It is best to change this self-talk to “I’m getting there” or “I will find a way” or “I know I can.” Once you start speaking positivity over your particular situation, you will reach the phrase “I’m doing it!”
I teach my kids this tool also. Throughout the day they may ask me to help them with something, so if I know they are capable of completing the task, then I tell them to “try.” As I teach them this tool they usually say “I can’t.” I refuse to allow my kids to grow a giving up mentality so I tell them that they should try. 9 times out of 10 they are able to complete the task. At that point they are overjoyed and empowered that they accomplished something that they once thought was too difficult. On the flip side, if after trying, they are still having difficulty then they can use another resource (which is me at the time) for help. This leads to the next mindset block.
The 2nd common mindset block is the phrase “I have to do it alone”–Wow I had a difficult time breaking this mindset, years ago. I was raised to be independent so as I entered adulthood, I felt that every situation I was in, I would have to go through alone. If I wanted to achieve a certain goal, I thought, “I’m on my own.” If I was suffering emotionally, I would tell myself, “No one will understand, I’ll have to deal with this alone.” But then I grew my faith, I became more self-aware, I made investments for my self development and I become better. To get out of a negative mindset I connected with people that helped me grow and that taught me that I don’t have to do life alone.
Oh what a World of a difference this made for me, and I know it can change your life too. If at this moment you feel like you have to do life alone, I promise you don’t. I know! sometimes the people close to use are not the best support, so find a community of women that you can link up with that can help you through life. We all need people on our side for the ups and the downs, the celebrations and victories, and even when our success seems so far out of reach.
Today, I encourage you to remove this mindset block from your thought process. I know you will see a change. You deserve what the Lord has in store for you.
The 3rd common mindset block is the phrase “I’m not worthy or I don’t deserve this.”-The feeling of worthiness is something that we create in ourselves. The way that we develop this feeling is by practicing self-care, self-awareness, self-love, and self-acceptance. So it makes sense, that if we don’t invest in ourselves, physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually, then we can fall into the trap of feeling unworthy.
This is also true, when you feel undeserving. So you’ve worked hard on reaching a goal or getting promoted at work, but then negative thought enters your mind and you feel that someone else may be more deserving than you. Maybe it’s because another person is already well established, and although you’ve worked hard, you feel that they deserve it more. Please remember that what is for YOU is for YOU. Don’t compare your talents with those around you. If your blessing is a promotion at work, don’t reject the positive and inhale the negative. Yes, your coworker may have been at the job longer than you have, but the promotion is yours, so celebrate that.
Sweetheart, you deserve what is yours. The hopes, dreams and desires of your heart are yours. To remind my clients that they are worthy and deserving, I direct them to create index cards or note cards with words of affirmation, to help shift their thoughts from negative to positive. The phrases you can write are “You are worthy” “You are beautiful” “You are smart” “You are intelligent” “You are prospering” “You are living a life of abundance”.
I leave you with this, if you begin to see these behaviors develop when you face certain situations, please refer to your words of affirmation and let go of the negative thoughts.
I also have a group mentoring program that begins in February 2019. If you are looking for a Sisterhood, where you can be a part of a support system, then contact me for more information. You can also join my email list to stay up to date.
Until Next Time XOXO